The question of asking an adoptee to share their adoption Day story is very complex and simple at the same time. Each person has their own experience and for most adoptees, this is difficult, especially for transracial BIPOC adoptees, this is a very invasive and triggering question if not asked in a way that allows them to just be heard completely.
The whole topic about what adoption day is multi-layered and a source of great pain for most adoptees. There is a harmful assumption that they should celebrate this day with positive memories and a positive narrative. This is far from the truth. For each adoptee, the story is continuous and ongoing and does not have one point of beginning or one point of ending. Rephrasing and reframing how people who are not adopted can do their own personal work to think about how questions such as this are very biased and harmful.
Each person who is not adopted wanting to support an adoptee and should do their own personal work and seek their own outlets to educate themselves to begin to understand and learn what being an adoptee truly means. No one outside of the adoptee experience can truly fully understand what this lived complex traumatizing experience is, yet we can open ourselves up to be curious, to check our own biases, race, gender, cast, etc… and assumptions, to make sure that we are allowing adoptee -especially transracial adoptees to speak for themselves and no one to ever speak for them. To make sure we are part of the solution, not the problem. Gaslighting is violent and we all can be Active allies to stop all forms of violence.